Comments on: It’s a Woe-man’s world

By: Twilight Fairy

Twilight Fairy — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 17:02:16 +0000

Eedaa – gosh appreciate the deliberate eeengleesh effort!

By: Eedaa

Eedaa — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 12:30:24 +0000

Excuss pliss, How much is the one jar peanut butter to be costing? Is more than Amul? Desi ghee also? And where you getting this? Also, any substitoot for this… like simpel peanuts?

What is, I am toh ejucated, amployed and verry decent and all the time avlabel. I am working loader in Gurgaon factry. But not free haan… fulltoo salry I am getting.

But what to do, up to now single only. I am thinking is bcos I not have the one jar peanut butter.

After I reading your blog I am speeking my bajuwala kirana. But he toh is saying not noing peanut butter only. But I am thinking how this. He toh verry happily married with most bewtiful wife! I am thinking he having many many jars peanut butter; not telling raskal fellow.

So you pliss help haan behnji. I sure call you my mareage! (”,)

By: Yesha / Purplespell

Yesha / Purplespell — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 18:09:11 +0000

i started following ur tweets as found quite a few of them interesting and with gud humor… however never visited ur site … my first chance and wooo… what a post.. bang on what i feel! cool one… for penning it down just perfectly!

By: Twilight Fairy

Twilight Fairy — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:44:56 +0000

wordsmith congratulations! and lucky you, you din have to enter this being “on the shelf in the market” phase

By: wordsmith

wordsmith — Mon, 31 May 2010 23:10:33 +0000

Very well written. Brought back memories from 10 years ago when I was going through the whole marriage thing.

After my MBA I landed a great job and was living by myself in Bombay. And my parents bombarded me to no end with bio datas of all sorts of ’suitable boys’, some of whom I dutifully met for lunch dates. Nothing ever did come out of those meetings, mainly because I was seeing someone else. He didnt have a stellar job at that point, which meant we couldn’t tell my parents. But eventually we did and are still very happily married 10 years later.

So to all those still looking, don’t despair. Things will work out sooner or later and you will have some amusing tales from this time to tell your grandkids

By: purush

purush — Fri, 21 May 2010 08:00:28 +0000

It was an interesting blog. Strangely I have been in to the “marriage market” for over an year. It has been pretty much the same as yours. except that I am a man looking for a woman. I never knew women also have the same experience as men.

Nice blog ..keep it up.

By: anurag

anurag — Thu, 20 May 2010 12:33:56 +0000

very well said and understood… its a vicious circle ……cant blame neone…… v r all a part of the same thing….

By: A woman’s woes – coupl.in

A woman’s woes – coupl.in — Thu, 13 May 2010 14:36:28 +0000

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By: Joanna

Joanna — Wed, 12 May 2010 14:22:48 +0000

I love the fact that u spoke so much about what I really believe in and what ive been quite freely preaching to all and sundry…
When it comes to marriage, even the men who consider themselves independent and modern become mama’s little boys and toe the ’stereotyped’ line..
Methinks a major prob lies in women too…why are they so fiercely independent…and then suddenly turn into pati vrata types? Is it necessary to fit into all stereotypes, why cant we break them?
Ive been called a man-hating feminist for my views…altho I think most men are just scared that their wives will steal their thunder…
For the record…am also still hunting for mr rite..or mr equal rite (shud i say)…let me kno when urs ends…
Cheers!

By: Vivek Krishna

Vivek Krishna — Mon, 10 May 2010 05:11:31 +0000

Interesting article – despite the detailed profile it is sometimes impossible to figure out the attitude of the guys.What kind of questions do you think can bring out the ‘mama’s boy’ out of the closet
May be we will add such Qs on coupl.in

By: Vibhushan

Vibhushan — Sun, 09 May 2010 09:06:59 +0000

Interesting post. More than the woes an independent woman has to face in the matrimony battle, the internet product manager in me found it to be a great customer feedback for these matrimony sites. Considering the new confident and independent generation of people like you; and the archaic systems Indian society follows when it comes to marriage, this becomes a million dollar opportunity for entrepreneurs. SimplyMarry.com, coupl.in are the niche sites in this area, and I guess this post makes a perfect insight for these guys on what is the exact problem that they should be solving

By: theidiot

theidiot — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 09:03:18 +0000

the travails of a single man are no worse. atleast one who seeks to shun the arranged marriage route. atleast in india it begins with, where do we meet single women

unfortunately i am not as talented as you, neither do i possess such observational skills… else there is a story there…

By: astatine

astatine — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 02:44:01 +0000

Ha…tell me about it.
“One wife divorced, two children divorced”, and the cad wanted a virgin wife who would quit her job and look after his mother.
Men!!!! I wish I swung the other way sometimes……

http://amapuna.wordpress.com/2009/11/23/kissing-toads/

By: navin

navin — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 15:23:28 +0000

I am happy that somebody really did share the kind of experience you face on social networking sites and on matrimonial sites.

Why gender bias ? This holds true for both the genders.

By: Twilight Fairy

Twilight Fairy — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:37:33 +0000

Chaitanya – the post may be a month old but the experiences are years old . I am not active on any matrimonial sites now. There are no updates on my end either.

But don’t get so nervous about the process! I remember the first time I had to meet a guy like this, I had the same thoughts (about it being worse than job interviews)..but then one just plunges into it, sees the hilarity of it all and goes along with the flow. One thing that I had made sure before meeting “arranged matches” was to meet guys only on the condition that my parents would not try to influence my decision. If I said no, it would mean no irrespective of whatever good or bad points the guy or his family may have. Make sure you have the freedom to say no! I know far too many cases of people who succumb to pressure and later repent for the rest of their lives.

By: Twilight Fairy

Twilight Fairy — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 18:33:37 +0000

Thanks nic. Oh I know guys would have somewhat similar experiences.. after all there are cheats all around. But even then, their experiences would not be half as shocking as what women come across (or at least what I have come across)

By: chaitanya

chaitanya — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 12:16:01 +0000

Oh Fairy, you scare me

I turned 25 a few months back, and my parents are getting all geared up to find a girl. And I’m getting geared up to deal with rejection.

This is worse than the time I had to face campus placement interviews!

This post being over a month old, I’d really like to know if there’re any updates.

Cheers,
Chaitanya.

By: nic

nic — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 10:36:24 +0000

Great post, Twilight. Came here through Rashmi’s blog. Since I have been through the same process for the past 2 years, I can say most of what you have written is true. I can probably write an entire book on this topic. If you think the situation is any better for us guys, I can assure you thats not the case. Below is a brief sample of what I have encountered so far -

1) The Photoshopped beauties – girls who appear to be the epitome of feminine beauty in their profile but in real life are more hairy than Anil Kapoor (just kidding), though the girl in question did have really prominent whiskers

2) The Visa hunters – Girls who are actually hunting for a US visa, the husband is incidental.

3) The traditional family types – Parents who stone-wall all attempts to even talk with the girl directly. (Hamare yahan yeh sab nahin hota hai) And the girl in question was a Sales Manager who interacts regularly with hundreds of people in her line of work. So she is allowed to talk to everyone except her prospective husband.

How I wish I could write a follow-up to your article giving the male perspective, if nothing else just to restore the balance

By: theishu

theishu — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:46:59 +0000

There’s an article in The Hindu abt matrimonial background investigation services, which was simply begging to be forwarded.

http://beta.thehindu.com/life-and-style/article257072.ece?homepage=true

By: theishu

theishu — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 19:38:11 +0000

Hard to disagree, especially with the anecdotes sprinkled across the post (and comments too). Wouldn’t it be smarter to build a matrimonial site or equivalent forum that borrows from the aforementioned collective experiences?

Just wondering.

Meanwhile wish you the best in finding a suitable suitor, non-repulsive in all said categories.